• What is a Bullies Target
• What is being a Bully
• How do I know when my Child is being Bullied
• What power does a Bully have
• What does Bullying accomplish
• What kind of trauma does School Bullying and Violence cause
• What are the variables of School Violence
• What are the factors of School Violence
• What is abuse of power by a Teacher or a School Worker
• What is a well meaning attitude by a Teachers and why
• What is an indifference to discussion by a Teacher and why
• What does it mean to constructively handle School Bullying and Violence
• What is Domestic Violence
• What is Personal Development
• What does complete as a Parent mean

What is a Bullies Target?
A Bullies target is usually someone a Bully knows he can pick on without any effective resistance, and the Bully considers this person to be inferior to them for whatever reason, so he/she feels they have a right to make that persons life miserable.
A Bully usually has people who give their support by being on the sidelines watching and not doing anything to stop the Bullying and as a result a Bullies target is more often than not, intimidated and fear is instilled in them.
The end result is that in the main, the person that a Bully targets reacts in a way that gives no challenge to a Bully, and the target is set upon and considered easy prey.

What is being a Bully?
A Bully is someone who for whatever reason wants to take away your power, and control you and have fun with you at your expense or just plain terrorize you.
Bullies victimize to the point of misery on a continuous basis with intimidation, teasing, stand over tactics, emotional and mental and physical abuse and injury, harassment, degrading treatment, threats, taking away your dignity, giving you low self esteem, or makes you suicidal.

How do I know when my Child is being Bullied?
When your Child is being bullied there are tell tale signs that things are not right with their life at school.
If you notice any of the following it is time to get involved and as a Parent learn how to constructively handle what is happening to your Child, and do whatever it takes to get results.
This is a list of just some of the tell tale signs your Child is being Bullied, but if you notice anything else that seems out of the ordinary with your Child, also get involved because there are signs that mean things are not right in your Child's life.

• Having a very real fear of a particular Teacher.
• Suddenly being sick before School, when they don't appear sick.
• Having headaches and or pains in the stomach most mornings.
• Refusing to get on the School Bus or come home on the School Bus.
• Having a very real fear of walking to and from School.
• Not wanting to go to School.
• Poor School Work.
• Playing truancy.
• Busting to use the toilet when they get home from School, because they won't go to the toilet at School.
• Being overly hungry when they get home from School, even though they took lunch with them, or you gave them lunch money.
• Insisting on taking way to much lunch to School with them.
• Stealing, and always wanting you to give them money.
• Always loosing their money.
• Having mood swings, that could mean slight or it could be strong anger.
• Keeping to themselves, not wanting to be involved in what family and friends are doing.
• Becoming very argumentative.
• Their uniform gets to dirty of a day, or it is torn and ruffled.
• They come home from School and try to hide bruises or signs that they have been hurt.
• They start getting into fights at School.
• They may start to Bully others.
• The worst could be that they attempt suicide which is very real for some Children.

What power does a Bully have?
A Bully has enormous power, until someone comes along and exercises power over them and then their power is gone.
Bullies control and manipulate, and go to any length to achieve the power that makes them feel like they are somebody.
They are extremely skilled at appearing faultless and being the victim, and they take delight when others get the blame for their actions.

What does Bullying accomplish?
The Bully finally has a measure of power and accomplishes what he/she sets out to do.
However there are usually consequences throughout a Bullies life, and for the Person that the Bully targeted.
Some of the possibilities are:

• Criminal Conviction sometime in their life.
• They may subject their Spouse or Partner to Domestic Violence.
• Abuse their Children.
• Have poor communication and social skills.
• They are likely to be Bullies in the workforce.
• An inability to deal with conflict and violence.
• Failed Relationships.
• Loneliness.
• They are likely to set an example of Bullying to their Children.

A Bully is habitually cruel or overbearing towards smaller or weaker people. They intimidate with superior size or strength, and they pressurize by intimidating.
They succeed in their endeavors by exerting power over others, instilling fear and controlling, to the point that some just never recover and spend the rest of their lives suffering and experiencing a less than ideal life.
Some of the possibilities are:

• They are likely to be Bullied in the workforce.
• Their careers may be affected.
• Poor communication and social skills.
• An inability to deal with conflict and violence.
• They are likely to have emotional and mental problems.
• Poor self esteem, shyness and socially may not fit in like they would like to.
• Depression.
• They may find that they cannot sustain healthy relationships.
• They may find themselves in a Domestic Violent Relationship.

What kind of trauma does School Bullying and Violence cause?
School Bullying and Violence can cause an emotional shock that creates substantial and lasting damage to the psychological development of the individual, generally leading to neurosis.
The Trauma that results is often Physical as well and sometimes leaves massive injuries and the shock of it all may have lasting effects, physically, emotionally, and mentally or all three, it can also cause profound feelings of fear, anger and devastation as well.

How do the variables of School Violence work?
A variable often represents an unknown quantity that has the potential to change and it is an attribute of an individual that might be expected to vary over time.
Therefore the degree and the severity of the violence can change and vary in the amount of times it happens, so the severity and degree of the violence is not always the same.

What are the psychological factors of School Violence?
There are many factors of School Violence and Bullying is one, but the psychological factors of School Violence and Bullying are the same.
Some of these are:

• The Bully is continuously hurt either at Home or at School and takes it out on others.
• The Bully is a victim of Bullying and Bullies for protection.
• The Bully may see Bullying as a way to end problems.
• Anger.
• There is a background of Domestic Violence.
• The Bully has signs of depression.
• There is a lack of love and attention at Home.
• Parents may use aggression and abuse as part of discipline.
• The Bully may be a victim of Child Abuse.
• The Bully may just have an overbearing and bossy temperament.
• There could be poor supervision and intervention in Bullying at School.
• A lack of full acceptance of all Students by some Students.
• There may be an apathetic attitude amongst some Teachers toward Bullying.
• The Bully wants power over others either for fun, to see others being hurt, or to feel like they are somebody in front of others.
• The Bully has a need for attention and importance.
• The Bully doesn't have good skills at coping with life.

What is abuse of power by a Teacher or a School Worker?
A Teacher or Anyone associated with the School System who is responsible for our Children have a duty of care to see that they are safe while at School, which is an enormous responsibility and gives them certain power.
An abuse of power on their part would be to misuse it and :

• Allow or turn a blind eye to our Children being hurt.
• To speak to our Children in a contemptuous, course or insulting way.
• To treat cruelly, or to handle roughly which hurts or can even injure our Children.

What is a well meaning attitude by a Teacher and why?
The Teacher really means with good intentions to do something about the problem
but for whatever reasons nothing comes of it.
The Variables and the Factors of School Violence and Bullying most likely comes into play here.

What is an indifference to discussion by a Teacher and why?
It is a lack of interest or concern on the Teachers part.
The Teacher is not affected by the problem and therefore it doesn't matter one way or the other about the problem.
It is very similar to being apathetic which means:lack of emotion or feeling, lack of interest or absence of response, feeling or showing little or no emotion.
Surprisingly some Teachers view Bullying as of no great importance or insignificance.
Please note: Not all Teachers have this viewpoint.

What does it mean to constructively handle School Bullying and Violence?
You become skilled in strategies and information to enable you or to help you to find someone to intervene in a positive way, so that the perpetrator is held accountable and given consequences for their behavior, but by the same token you find out the Bullies reasons for their behavior and give them positive help to make changes in their life.

What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is similar to Bullying, the perpetrator in a relationship where there is Domestic Violence will do whatever it takes to accomplish total control and power over you.
Some of the methods used are:

• Physical, mental, emotional and verbal abuse.
• Intimidation.
• Name calling.
• Humiliation.
• Keeping you isolated from Friends and restricting Family association.
• Not allowing you to talk about problems.
• Putting the blame for everything that doesn't go their way, upon your shoulders.
• Running you down and talking about your personal and private issues with your Children, Family, Friends and Strangers reducing you to total embarrassment and left feeling betrayed.
• Belittling you.
• Financial deprivation.
• Making you feel useless and worthless.
• Hurting your Children, verbally, mentally emotionally and sometimes physically to make you do what you are told.
• Breaking and destroying things that mean something to you.
• Keeps account of your whereabouts, the time you are away from home, and the mileage on your car.
• Not allowing you to go out or drive the car, because you didn't do what you were told to.
• Always having to ask and get permission before you can do anything.
• Rape.
• Sexual Assault.
• Forcible Handling.
• Forcible Sodomy.
• Robbery.
• Kidnapping.
• The ultimate weapon in an attempt to control you is murder.

Domestic Violence destroys you as a person and takes away all of your confidence, dignity and self esteem and reduces you to total control by someone else, leaving you feeling absolutely empty inside a failure and good for nothing.

What is Personal Development?
Personal Development builds and develops in you, better qualities, self esteem, and helps you to gain real confidence about your capabilities and potential.
You learn how to deal with life's ups and downs in a positive and constructive way and how to be more successful in your life.
You learn how to treat yourself and your friends and those you come into contact with in a way that builds up and inspires and give encouragement to follow dreams and reach goals instead of negativity that holds us back from inner and outer success and contentment.
Personal Development empowers you to a much more rewarding life.

What does complete as a Parent mean?
Being totally satisfied with the way that you were able to help and protect your Child or Children through life from unnecessary harm and unhappiness and to equip them with the skills to be happy and successful in their own right as an adults.

What is this feeling of helplessness and feeling powerless to help your child?
The situation to you with Bullying seems so impossible to control, which makes you feel inadequate or incompetent and that you are just not capable of accomplishing anything, because it seems to you that you have not supported your Child enough, or protected them enough, and you just cannot find a way to help them, and so deep down you feel like a failure.